Recently, I started seeing my own therapist, and she diagnosed me with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), as a result of the many intense situations I’ve found myself in while raising a child with extreme behaviors as a result of his trauma history. This was a tough pill for me to swallow. If I’m being honest, … Continue reading Why I See My Own Therapist, and Why You Should Too
Somewhere in our county there is a massive old limestone bridge over which a railroad company had once run its trains. Today, having found myself in the area and with a bit of time on my hands, I set out to find it. However, all I knew was that it was somewhat southeast of an … Continue reading How to Keep Going When Love is Not a Victory March
Have you seen that episode of I Love Lucy with the freezer? I certainly hope you have, but if not, allow me to give you a brief synopsis. Lucy and Ethel decide to buy a large, industrial freezer without their husbands knowing it because they figure buying meat in bulk and storing it in the … Continue reading Considering Foster Care? Then Bust Down the Door
Today I sat down to write for The Foster Dads, fully knowing that recently I’ve been far less consistent than I should be if I want to maintain a steady readership. As I scrolled through my list of potential article topics, I realized that I couldn’t write about any of them. It’s not that I … Continue reading Exhausted. Worn Down. Bitter.
In the early- to mid-2000s, there was a delightful fantasy adventure show on Nickelodeon called Avatar: The Last Airbender. If you’re unfamiliar, it’s the story of a boy named Aang, the Avatar, who is basically the chosen one to save the world from the conquering Fire Nation. While the show is technically for kids, it … Continue reading Uncle Iroh’s Lessons for Foster Parents
Throughout this series about rethinking control, I’ve written about how you’re completely in control of yourself and nothing else. This includes your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When you have a skewed understanding of what you can and cannot control, you may find yourself dealing with anger. One of the things that you cannot control, and … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 5: Giving Away Control to Meet the Needs of Children with Attachment Difficulties
So far in this series on rethinking control, we’ve established that you are in complete control of yourself...and not a whole lot else. The inverse of this relatively unfortunate reality is also true: you are not in control of other people, including and especially your children. But for whatever reason, we have this expectation that … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 4: Helping Your Child Develop Their Internal Sense of Control