How to Keep Going When Love is Not a Victory March

Somewhere in our county there is a massive old limestone bridge over which a railroad company had once run its trains. Today, having found myself in the area and with a bit of time on my hands, I set out to find it. However, all I knew was that it was somewhat southeast of an … Continue reading How to Keep Going When Love is Not a Victory March

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All He Wants is to Feel Safe and Loved

I have a Facebook friend who excitedly counted down the days until spring break when she could finally spend a bunch of quality time with her kids. That’s beautiful and amazing and inspiring and foreign to me. You see, for me, the looming inevitability of spring break was foreboding, a feeling I’m sure (or at … Continue reading All He Wants is to Feel Safe and Loved

Rethinking Control, Part 5: Giving Away Control to Meet the Needs of Children with Attachment Difficulties

Throughout this series about rethinking control, I’ve written about how you’re completely in control of yourself and nothing else. This includes your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When you have a skewed understanding of what you can and cannot control, you may find yourself dealing with anger. One of the things that you cannot control, and … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 5: Giving Away Control to Meet the Needs of Children with Attachment Difficulties