Few things frustrate me more as a dad than defiance from my fourteen-year-old son when I tell him to do something and he either ignores me or flat out refuses to comply. It makes my blood boil and all I want to do is fly into a rage. After all, this is: my house he's … Continue reading An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories
Today is National Adoption Day, and, since I am an adoptive dad, it seemed appropriate for me to write today’s article. But as I considered my angle, I was torn between the desire to talk up how beautiful adoption is and the responsibility to acknowledge how heartbreaking adoption is as well. There is an inherent, … Continue reading Embracing the Tension of Adoption
I hate devotionals, mostly because just about anyone can write one (such as that world-renowned New Testament scholar Sarah Palin) and thus there’s no real guarantee or even likelihood that they present any accurate biblical truth. That being said, this article is, for all intents and purposes, a devotional, but I refuse to call it … Continue reading Opportunity is in the Interruption
I love to read inspiring and perspective-altering quotes from wise people, particularly when the words are overlaid on an image of a mountain or a forest, but oftentimes the truth in those statements can be inconvenient. Recently, I read three such inconvenient quotes all on the same day, and none of them were coupled with … Continue reading Be the Adult You Want Your Child to Become
We here at The Foster Dads are big proponents of adoption in cases where that is appropriate and necessary. November is National Adoption Month, so we want to send out a "keep on keeping on" to all of you adoptive dads like me. I know from personal experience that being an adoptive father isn't easy, … Continue reading November is National Adoption Month!
A few weeks ago, Dave and I loaded up his VW Bus and hit the road for a stirring expedition into the untamed wilderness of the Colorado Rocky Mountains. On a mountain high above Colorado Springs, some top-notch men were putting on a non-conference, non-retreat specifically for foster and adoptive dads called Road Trip. Typically … Continue reading Road Trip for Foster and Adoptive Dads: Why You Need to Go!
A few years ago, there was a video floating around Facebook of a Navy Admiral giving a commencement address at the University of Texas. During his speech, he encouraged the graduates to make their beds every day, because starting off the day with one completed task makes it easier to make the completion of tasks … Continue reading Quit Making Your Bed!