When Foster Care Works

I was asked to write about Jay’s story this week.  This is another post about a kid leaving my home; my last was about a disruption and how that change ended up being positive.  So sorry not sorry to keep writing about kids leaving-I’ll do my best to change the subject for next time. Most … Continue reading When Foster Care Works

Real Dad, Schmeal Dad; Here’s the Deal, Dad

One day a few months ago, my wife, my then-thirteen-year-old son, and I were in the waiting room of the one dentist office in town that takes the state insurance provided for foster kids. My son, per usual, was all over me, vacillating between aggressive hugs and affectionate bites, which simultaneously billowed my heart with … Continue reading Real Dad, Schmeal Dad; Here’s the Deal, Dad

Sacred Ground

My son joined my family when he was thirteen years old, and thankfully, because this is The Foster Dads, I don't have to explain how that works for once. Since he quite obviously wasn't a baby, I didn't have the conventional means of attaching to him that most parents have with their infant children, meaning … Continue reading Sacred Ground

Benny’s Story

Names are changed to protect the confidentiality of the children. As I’m writing this, I’m sitting on my deck drinking some coffee, encouraging the dog to “get that squirrel,” and getting ready to head to church.  I just finished my Bible reading for the day (I’m telling you all this so you’ll know just how … Continue reading Benny’s Story

The Foster Dad’s Only God-Ordained Guide to Self-Care

Self-care is all the rage these days. Everyone is talking about it, but it actually took me awhile to grasp the fact that there’s good reason. As it turns out, taking care of yourself is an integral element of taking care of someone else, just like how flight attendants instruct you to put on your … Continue reading The Foster Dad’s Only God-Ordained Guide to Self-Care

6 Unrealistic Expectations I Had for Foster Parenting

Like pretty much any new venture in life, I entered the foster care and adoption journey with a whole host of expectations for what the experience would be like. The tough thing about expectations, though, is that usually you don't realize you have them until they go unmet. You'd have thought I would’ve learned that … Continue reading 6 Unrealistic Expectations I Had for Foster Parenting

Why you should adopt a teenager!

When my wife and I first decided to adopt from foster care, we agreed on a rule for ourselves: we would welcome children of any age, as long as that child wasn’t so old that we couldn’t have biologically been his or her parents. In other words, we wanted an age gap of at least … Continue reading Why you should adopt a teenager!

The Story of the Time We Nearly Adopted Five Kids All at Once

In February of 2017, an image was relentlessly shared on various social media sites, so much so that People Magazine featured the picture along with an article explaining it. The image featured five beautiful children–ranging in age from eleven to two–sitting side-by-side on a wood bench, three smiling and two looking back at the camera … Continue reading The Story of the Time We Nearly Adopted Five Kids All at Once

A Reflection on My First Three Months as a Foster Parent

​By Zach DeLoach This was originally posted on December 7, 2017 at zacharydeloach.wordpress.com. ---- On Labor Day this year, our lives changed dramatically. After nine months of appointments, stomach aches, sleepless nights, answering questions we didn't really know the answers to, keeping secrets, going to classes, reading books, and filling out paperwork, my wife and … Continue reading A Reflection on My First Three Months as a Foster Parent