Journey to the Great White North

I was asked to tell this story for today’s post.  Fortunately or unfortunately (depending on what you like, I suppose), there isn’t really some big meaningful end to the story.  At least not like some.  Though I did learn a thing or two along the way rather early in my foster “career.” So as has … Continue reading Journey to the Great White North

I Am Not a Saint

Every once in a while, I'm suddenly struck anew by the fact that I have a teenage son. It's particularly bizarre because of my young age and because of the fact that until a little over a year ago I didn't have any kids. Similarly, when I hear those AdoptUSKids “What to Expect When You're … Continue reading I Am Not a Saint

Guest Post: I Am Going To by Brett Chabek

I don't need to step over the baby gate anymore, so I won't. It's been taken down. I don't need to fumble with the child-proof locks on the cabinets, so I won't. They're not there anymore. I don't need to check and see if there are any bottles made for tonight, so I won't. Nobody … Continue reading Guest Post: I Am Going To by Brett Chabek

What to Expect When You’re Expecting

Apologies to Heidi Murkoff and Sharon Mazel for stealing the title of their book, which I haven’t read. And also to the stars of the movie by the same name, which I haven’t watched. Thankfully (because of the intense need for more foster parents), I have a couple friends who are getting close to becoming … Continue reading What to Expect When You’re Expecting

Guest Post: The Peculiar Thing[s] About Fostering, by Jon Williford

Today's guest post was written by Jon Williford. Jon has been a foster parent for four years and he and his wife are passionate about caring for children with special needs. If you'd like to write a guest post for The Foster Dads, click here! ----- Special-needs fostering is not what we wanted. We’re foster … Continue reading Guest Post: The Peculiar Thing[s] About Fostering, by Jon Williford

Instant Heartache: How Taking an Emergency Placement Can Really Mess You Up.

“I’m in the garage working out, trying to be all manly.  But now I’m tearing up.” That was my slightly sarcastic text response to being sent a link to a trailer for the upcoming movie, “Instant Family.”  I don’t typically follow movies and TV shows all that closely, so I’d only seen a mention in … Continue reading Instant Heartache: How Taking an Emergency Placement Can Really Mess You Up.

This is Hard, But We’re Doing It

My wife and I finalized the adoption of our teenage son a couple weeks back and, unlike when he first moved in with us a year ago, there was no honeymoon period. Even though we were adamant about being realistic, we quietly hoped that making everything official and legal would curtail the testing behaviors that … Continue reading This is Hard, But We’re Doing It

Some Practical Things You Can Do to Help Out the Foster Dad in Your Life.

I find that these posts are easier to write when I’m feeling a little emotional.  Maybe that takes the edge off some of my cynicism or something, I dunno. They’re also easier to write when I’m enjoying a beer and/or a stogie on the back deck, but that’s another story. This evening I have the … Continue reading Some Practical Things You Can Do to Help Out the Foster Dad in Your Life.

Keeping Perspective in Tough Situations

If you care for children in any capacity, you’ve probably experienced that feeling of such intense frustration that you want to throw a tantrum yourself. Or maybe it’s just me, but I doubt it. Many, if not most, foster/adoptive parents endure this phenomenon uniquely, as our children often exhibit extreme behaviors resulting from trauma. These … Continue reading Keeping Perspective in Tough Situations

Nine Foolproof Rules to Make Sure Your Kids Aren’t You-Know-Whats

Prior to becoming a foster parent, I rented out the extra two bedrooms in my house to roommates.  (Side note: If you ever get frustrated with your foster children, just know that weirdo roommates from Craigslist can be way worse!)  One roommate asked me if I had any house rules.  My response at the time … Continue reading Nine Foolproof Rules to Make Sure Your Kids Aren’t You-Know-Whats