Rethinking Control, Part 2: Anger as a Reaction to Loss of Control

The following is the second part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. To read part one, click here. In the time I’ve spent both as a foster/adoptive dad and knowing/working with other foster/adoptive parents, I’ve noticed that we have a tendency … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 2: Anger as a Reaction to Loss of Control

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Rethinking Control, Part 1: Recognizing What You Can and Can’t Control

The following is the first part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. We hope this content is beneficial for you and that you'll stay tuned for more. If you read almost any parenting book, one word that will almost undoubtedly get … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 1: Recognizing What You Can and Can’t Control

An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Few things frustrate me more as a dad than defiance from my fourteen-year-old son when I tell him to do something and he either ignores me or flat out refuses to comply. It makes my blood boil and all I want to do is fly into a rage. After all, this is: my house he's … Continue reading An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Dave’s Definitive Guide to Being a Single Foster Dad

If you’ve ever bothered to read my bio, you already know that I’ve been fostering for more than five loooonnng years.  What it doesn’t say, is that I’ve been doing it all by myself for that time as a single guy.  I’m surprised the author of that bio (hint: it wasn’t me) didn’t see fit to … Continue reading Dave’s Definitive Guide to Being a Single Foster Dad

Guest Post: Train Up a Child, by Scott DeLoach

Let’s start with full disclosure: I am not a foster dad. But I am a foster grandpa turned adoptive grandpa and a transracial adoptive dad, as well as a biological dad and a biological grandpa. Four kids came into our house through birth, and one through adoption. Two of my kids have ADHD, one has … Continue reading Guest Post: Train Up a Child, by Scott DeLoach

Emergency Care: A Short-Term Way to Make a Big Difference

Today’s thoughts are dedicated to my parents, who likely didn’t get much sleep until perhaps I was a teenager.  And have made it known that I'm getting what I deserve when one of my kids keeps me up! Warning: This article will end up being a little PG-13, but please forgive me for that--I’m only … Continue reading Emergency Care: A Short-Term Way to Make a Big Difference

Road Trip for Foster and Adoptive Dads: Why You Need to Go!

A few weeks ago, Dave and I loaded up his VW Bus and hit the road for a stirring expedition into the untamed wilderness of the Colorado Rocky Mountains. On a mountain high above Colorado Springs, some top-notch men were putting on a non-conference, non-retreat specifically for foster and adoptive dads called Road Trip. Typically … Continue reading Road Trip for Foster and Adoptive Dads: Why You Need to Go!