The following is the second part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. To read part one, click here. In the time I’ve spent both as a foster/adoptive dad and knowing/working with other foster/adoptive parents, I’ve noticed that we have a tendency … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 2: Anger as a Reaction to Loss of Control
The following is the first part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. We hope this content is beneficial for you and that you'll stay tuned for more. If you read almost any parenting book, one word that will almost undoubtedly get … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 1: Recognizing What You Can and Can’t Control
Few things frustrate me more as a dad than defiance from my fourteen-year-old son when I tell him to do something and he either ignores me or flat out refuses to comply. It makes my blood boil and all I want to do is fly into a rage. After all, this is: my house he's … Continue reading An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories
Let’s start with full disclosure: I am not a foster dad. But I am a foster grandpa turned adoptive grandpa and a transracial adoptive dad, as well as a biological dad and a biological grandpa. Four kids came into our house through birth, and one through adoption. Two of my kids have ADHD, one has … Continue reading Guest Post: Train Up a Child, by Scott DeLoach
Today is National Adoption Day, and, since I am an adoptive dad, it seemed appropriate for me to write today’s article. But as I considered my angle, I was torn between the desire to talk up how beautiful adoption is and the responsibility to acknowledge how heartbreaking adoption is as well. There is an inherent, … Continue reading Embracing the Tension of Adoption
A few weeks ago, Dave and I loaded up his VW Bus and hit the road for a stirring expedition into the untamed wilderness of the Colorado Rocky Mountains. On a mountain high above Colorado Springs, some top-notch men were putting on a non-conference, non-retreat specifically for foster and adoptive dads called Road Trip. Typically … Continue reading Road Trip for Foster and Adoptive Dads: Why You Need to Go!
I mentioned on Wednesday that Zach and I attended Road Trip for Dads, and that once the event was over we attempted to conquer the Manitou Incline, as it had defeated us a few days prior. The Incline is incredibly steep. It climbs from 6,600 feet elevation above sea level to 8,590 feet in less … Continue reading Low-Oxygen Thoughts from the Manitou Incline