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All He Wants is to Feel Safe and Loved

I have a Facebook friend who excitedly counted down the days until spring break when she could finally spend a bunch of quality time with her kids. That’s beautiful and amazing and inspiring and foreign to me. You see, for me, the looming inevitability of spring break was foreboding, a feeling I’m sure (or at … Continue reading All He Wants is to Feel Safe and Loved

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Exhausted. Worn Down. Bitter.

Today I sat down to write for The Foster Dads, fully knowing that recently I’ve been far less consistent than I should be if I want to maintain a steady readership. As I scrolled through my list of potential article topics, I realized that I couldn’t write about any of them. It’s not that I … Continue reading Exhausted. Worn Down. Bitter.

Uncle Iroh’s Lessons for Foster Parents

In the early- to mid-2000s, there was a delightful fantasy adventure show on Nickelodeon called Avatar: The Last Airbender. If you’re unfamiliar, it’s the story of a boy named Aang, the Avatar, who is basically the chosen one to save the world from the conquering Fire Nation. While the show is technically for kids, it … Continue reading Uncle Iroh’s Lessons for Foster Parents

Rethinking Control, Part 5: Giving Away Control to Meet the Needs of Children with Attachment Difficulties

Throughout this series about rethinking control, I’ve written about how you’re completely in control of yourself and nothing else. This includes your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When you have a skewed understanding of what you can and cannot control, you may find yourself dealing with anger. One of the things that you cannot control, and … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 5: Giving Away Control to Meet the Needs of Children with Attachment Difficulties

Rethinking Control, Part 4: Helping Your Child Develop Their Internal Sense of Control

So far in this series on rethinking control, we’ve established that you are in complete control of yourself...and not a whole lot else. The inverse of this relatively unfortunate reality is also true: you are not in control of other people, including and especially your children. But for whatever reason, we have this expectation that … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 4: Helping Your Child Develop Their Internal Sense of Control

Rethinking Control, Part 3: 15 Things You Can Control Right Now

If you’ve read the first two parts of this series, you’re already aware that there’s so much in life we simply can’t control no matter how much we want to. Losing control, or realizing we never had the control we thought we had, causes us distress that often turns into anger. For those of us … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 3: 15 Things You Can Control Right Now

Christmas Hope for Foster/Adoptive Dads

Merry Christmas, fellow foster/adoptive dads, however it may find you. I absolutely love Christmas, but it can also be a particularly stressful time for foster/adoptive dads. The family is all together just a bit too much, the budget’s a little (or a lot) tighter, the chaos of the festivity can be overwhelming for the kids, … Continue reading Christmas Hope for Foster/Adoptive Dads