Rethinking Control, Part 2: Anger as a Reaction to Loss of Control

The following is the second part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. To read part one, click here. In the time I’ve spent both as a foster/adoptive dad and knowing/working with other foster/adoptive parents, I’ve noticed that we have a tendency … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 2: Anger as a Reaction to Loss of Control

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Midweek Poetry: The Pilgrim’s Hallelujah

I saw a pilgrim on his way, It seemed to power and to fame. I followed to escape the fear of feeling. If, in his constant company, If, in his steps, a man I’d be, Then none would see I’m desperate for healing. . He marched as if by siren’s song, But then I feared … Continue reading Midweek Poetry: The Pilgrim’s Hallelujah

Rethinking Control, Part 1: Recognizing What You Can and Can’t Control

The following is the first part of a series of articles all about taking a fresh look at control, particularly when it comes to raising children. We hope this content is beneficial for you and that you'll stay tuned for more. If you read almost any parenting book, one word that will almost undoubtedly get … Continue reading Rethinking Control, Part 1: Recognizing What You Can and Can’t Control

An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Few things frustrate me more as a dad than defiance from my fourteen-year-old son when I tell him to do something and he either ignores me or flat out refuses to comply. It makes my blood boil and all I want to do is fly into a rage. After all, this is: my house he's … Continue reading An Upside-Down Way to Address Defiance in Children with Trauma Histories

Embracing the Tension of Adoption

Today is National Adoption Day, and, since I am an adoptive dad, it seemed appropriate for me to write today’s article. But as I considered my angle, I was torn between the desire to talk up how beautiful adoption is and the responsibility to acknowledge how heartbreaking adoption is as well. There is an inherent, … Continue reading Embracing the Tension of Adoption

Midweek Dadvotional: Opportunity is in the Interruption

I hate devotionals, mostly because just about anyone can write one (such as that world-renowned New Testament scholar Sarah Palin) and thus there’s no real guarantee or even likelihood that they present any accurate biblical truth. That being said, this article is, for all intents and purposes, a devotional, but I refuse to call it … Continue reading Midweek Dadvotional: Opportunity is in the Interruption

Be the Adult You Want Your Child to Become

I love to read inspiring and perspective-altering quotes from wise people, particularly when the words are overlaid on an image of a mountain or a forest, but oftentimes the truth in those statements can be inconvenient. Recently, I read three such inconvenient quotes all on the same day, and none of them were coupled with … Continue reading Be the Adult You Want Your Child to Become